They Say Friends Will Stay with You Forever

They say friends will stay with you forever. Never fight over a boy. Love comes and goes. I agree. At least I think I do. My experience has been… different to say the least. If you have friends that go through your whole life with you, then you’re luckier than you might think.

I never had consistent friends. Sometimes I think after 2 or 3 years I get bored and I need change. But then I think not all of it has been my decision. Am I just telling myself that it’s me? That I had made that decision?

Anyway, back to the initial topic. I agree that it is one of the most important things in life to have friends or at least one friend that you can trust more than anyone. Someone you can tell everything. It’s just, that description is not a friend. It’s a partner. Sure you will have a best friend. Still, you’re not going to share everything with them. You will have secrets. For your own reasons, justified or not, that’s not the point. It is always true that it is better to have 1 real friend that 1000 false ones but how do you know? Trial and error. You can’t just read someone’s mind. As good of a person reader you might think yourself to be, you will never know anyone 100%.

So after you have tried out person after person and one of them you might call your best friend because you have the most in common and that’s just your girl. But the older you get, the more you realise there is only one person in the whole wide world that will always be there and that is you. If you cannot bring yourself back up when you’re down, you’re lost. If you need other people to pick you up, you’re lost. I’m not saying don’t have other people but let them help you don’t force them to carry you.

So, now that you have accepted that you are the only one you need, you look at your life and you think well this is boring. And more and more you think, I have all these friends, all these people that are great and that I love and I don’t ever have to be alone. But I’m alone.

All those people. They have their own lives. They’re my friends and they love me very much but they are not my partner and I’m not theirs. If I decide to move to a different country, they wouldn’t come with me just because it is what I want to do.

We have Brocodes and Girlcodes for a reason. If one of us finds their partner and the other one doesn’t, it’s hard for the person that is left. So we invent rules to make it easier for us. Easier for us to deal with the loss of our best friend, selfishly. And then they turn on you. Unfortunately the vast majority of people still acts like animals when confronted with bad feelings. Instead of accepting the natural course of events and just being happy for your friend, they turn on you. They are jealous and ugly. But god, you just found the love of your life (every relationship is the love of our life at the start) and you cannot be bothered with all this negativity and hate. So you pull back.

And then what is left? Your friends? No, your partner. Maybe we have to change how we look at life. I mean who wants to do the same thing and be surrounded by the same bunch of people for what like 70-90 years?

Is it not rather worth striving for to have one person that you can share literally everything with? That person that doesn’t judge you because they love you unconditionally? I’m not saying ditch all your friends and find your true love. I’m just saying get your priorities straight. You, your family, your friends. This is the only order that should be accepted. Your partner should be your family. And there you have it.

Let nothing ever come between you and love. Love is the most beautiful and painful thing. Without love, you're not living. Love yourself and other people will start loving you. Don’t ever be afraid of falling in love and don’t let anyone ever stop you. Just be careful and never forget to love yourself first.