To the Broken-Hearted People

What broken-hearted people need to hear, from someone who has experienced it all.

If you’ve just broken up with someone and it still hurts... it’s okay. You did what was right for you. You trusted your gut, and you had to put yourself first. Yes, hurting them is going to hurt, but the only way you can heal is to stop feeling guilty. Push the guilt aside, and focus on you. It’s going to be hard, there are going to be days where you regret your decision, but you have to keep moving. Everything heals over time, and over time you won’t feel guilty anymore. It’s going to be okay.

If you’ve just been broken up with... it’s okay. It’s going to hurt and you’re going to cry, and that’s okay. It’s okay to let your emotions out; it’s okay to be confused, be angry etc. Maybe you’ll wonder why you aren’t good enough, maybe they won’t give you closure. It’s going to hurt. But one day it won’t. One day there will be a day where you don’t think about them. There will be a day when you realise you don’t miss them anymore. You’ll smile, and realise you don’t hurt anymore. Time will heal you.

If you’re heartbroken from a loss... it’s okay. It was something you cannot control, it’s okay to grieve what you have lost. There may be a hole in your heart from where you miss them, and you may cry at the memories of them. It’s only natural for you to feel that way. But, you must remember they wouldn’t want you to mourn over them. They would want you to smile, remember the past fondly, and continue with your life. It doesn’t matter how long it takes you, but you must keep going. Losing someone when you didn’t expect to is the worst heartbreak of all, but things will get better, and it will get easier. And even if you were expecting to lose someone, the pain is still going to hurt, but you might be able to prepare for the heart break.

The truth, about heartbreak, is that everyone tells you how it will feel, they will tell you how much it hurts, but no-one will ever know how you feel. Only you know how heartbreak affects you, and only you can heal yourself. Don’t do anything stupid because of heartbreak, don’t let it consume you and turn you into something you’re not. Yes it is going to hurt, but don’t let the pain take away your personality. Keep smiling, keep loving. Keep faking it until you make it. Because life is short, and only you have the chance to grab it and change it for the better. Heartbreak will always be a pain, and even if you’re crying from the pain while reading this, you HAVE to know that it will get better. It’s cliché and super cheesy, but things will get better over time.

Life will throw you things that you cannot expect—heartbreak is one of them. Try the best you can to overcome it. Get through the hard time and become a better person by the end of it. You never know, the experience might even help you understand love better. Maybe a heartbreak will teach you the right ways to deal with relationships, and the difficult situations a relationship can bring. Heartbreak isn’t easy, no matter what the situation is, but you must always remember that it’s okay to feel heartbroken. You must remember heartbreak may happen more than once, or it may never happen to you.

One last thing, no matter how many heartbreaks you go through please remember you are always loved.