Topics About Love

What happens when you come to terms with your feelings:

Most, if not all people will have their own way of coping with falling in love. Here, I'll explain mine: I do absolutely nothing about it. Externally, anyway. Internally, it's a whole other story. I don't want to say that I'm uninterested in relationships, but I do think I'm in a place in my life where it'd be difficult for me to accommodate a partner. Thus, I just don't think I'd do a very good job at committing a part of me to them. It also doesn't help that I'm an asexual; trying to identify another one of those is a mission in and of itself.

However, I'm not an aromantic, and when I do find someone who touches me in that special way, I keep them in my heart. I would much rather feel nothing but love than any sort of bitterness toward anybody, so that's what I focus on. It's the one thing I know I can always count on. Having that amazing feeling is what gets me through the day, and it's all I could ever ask for.

Does love die, or is it ever truly there to begin with?

The only thing that can happen is understanding what you truly feel toward someone with time, and whether the relationship itself or the people in it are worth it. Sometimes you think you feel one way toward another due to a specific circumstance (a high-intensity situation, propinquity, etc.) when really it's something else. Other times, maybe you do genuinely feel romantic love, but other priorities in your life are taking over and you choose to pursue them instead.

But none of that can ever change the way you feel. What's important is that you can be held accountable for the conclusions you come to and the decisions you make thereafter.

Can you learn to love?

The better you understand what love is and what sort of person is right for you, the better you become at expressing your feelings. It can take many people to realise this; it can take one that was always meant to be, but whose bond needed cultivation. Keep in mind that the relationships you enter can differ from one another depending on who you're with and what the dynamic is like based on your personalities. It's up to you to decide which one will guarantee mutual happiness.

Friendship matters more to me than romance.

I want to make something very clear: I'm a hopeless romantic. There are very few things on this planet that bring me greater joy than seeing the right people get together. The more love there is, the better off we are. Like virtually any other type of relationship, however, romance needs to be rooted in something greater, and that is friendship.

True friends value each other as people first and foremost and are more honest with each other than with anyone else in the world. The fantasy, lust, and drama that come with romance must be balanced with the groundedness, respect, and understanding that come with friendship. Otherwise, no relationship can survive.

What is dating really supposed to be like?

I personally don't believe that dating should be an activity strangers engage in to decide if they should pursue a deeper relation. Others will disagree, and that is perfectly fine, but to me, it either seems like mere attraction that doesn't go beyond being fun and games or desperation for a transaction meant to benefit ourselves.

If I were to date, I would rather go with someone I already know and perhaps harbour feelings for (or at least, someone I know for whom I'm willing to give it a try). There's a level of rapport that comes with familiarity; after all, you're more likely to consider the feelings and needs of a person you know than a stranger you may never encounter again in your life.

Why do we act ridiculously around that special someone?

This is one of those moments when we are behaving most like ourselves, and it's a manifestation of the emotions we're experiencing inside. There aren't many moments in life when we get to be completely relaxed in our adrenaline without worry about any interferences. Besides, who doesn't want a little humour and excitement in their courtship?

How different are we all when it comes to love, actually?

It's true that we all want love—just, potentially in different ways. It all boils down to who will understand and accept us the most. We may feel compelled to do the same, to find the inspiration to make the relationship work, flaws and all.

What does it mean to truly be in love?

What should be one of the most difficult questions to answer is actually quite simple. You're undoubtedly in love if you, on your own accord, choose to be with or commit yourself to someone despite everything you may know. There's no long-winded philosophy behind this. If you trust your instincts, no one else can tell you otherwise.