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Toxic Friendships

How to Escape

By Riccardo DPublished 5 years ago 2 min read
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So, you’ve been friends with Jack or Jill for the last seven years?

Well... that must be an unbreakable friendship, right!?

Wrong.

I’m here to tell you that friendship, no matter how many years you’ve been together, can still break.

And sometimes for the better.

Why do humans think that just because they’ve been friends with somebody for a long time, it means you must be friends forever?

I’ve been friends with a guy for a decade.

And at the start it was great! We went out all the time, discussed each other’s lives, how we grew up, met each other’s partners, moved in together, shared the bills, rent, food and all the luxuries we could afford, we travelled, we cried, we laughed, and every other thing you could possibly think of.

You need to think of your friendship as an actual relationship. Because it is. A bond of love.

Now mind you, both our personalities were huge. We always had differences in our opinions.

We C-L-A-S-H-E-D all the time. With everything.

At the start of a friendship, you never really know who the other person is until you’ve lived with them. As the same when you move in with your partner.

Even though we both had big personalities, I was always the calmer one.

At the start.

When they say “you can’t change a person...” You definitely can. Being calm was one of the greatest aspects about myself.

But after years of toxic friendship/s, it can sometimes make you a different person.

I became an angry person. Always on edge. Always had my guard up ready to attack.

When your friend thinks his/her opinion is more valid than yours.

When they think they’re better than you in every way.

When they put you down every chance they get.

When they argue with you whenever they can.

When they insult the very essence of what makes you human.

In the end; you’re tired.

You isolate yourself in your room away from humanity.

You care less about the world around you.

Your work ethic drops.

Your smile is always fake.

Your emotions turn into anxiety attacks.

This is depression.

Your friendship is killing your spirit and everything that makes you human.

Pack up. Go.

Before it changes you forever.

There’s no wrong or right way to do this.

But you must make them understand the decision you’ve made and you must be honest.

—R

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Riccardo D

I suck at showing my emotions but I can always show what I feel with a pen and paper.

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