Ways to Overcome Emotional Abusive Relationships

What is love? Is love tearing your partner down? Is it constantly yelling at them, saying how it is always their fault? Or is it never supporting them with all of their goals and choices? No, no it's not. Every day I sit here and think to myself, "why?" Why won't he just talk to me nicely, why won't he support me instead of bringing me down, why won't he take responsibility for making me cry, just why? I know I am not alone. I know there are tons of people who are going through the same thing. You deserve the best. You deserve to be treated with respect and love. Real love. It hurts, you leave someone you love, but what is love with receiving it in return. Know your worth. You are worth the world. You should be their number one. You should be loved. We deserve better, and here are some ways to get out, and get better.

Step One: Realize if they truly love you.

Now, you're in love. Every time you see that special someone your eyes widen, your heart races and you feel butterflies in your chest and tummy. You would do anything for them, even change your whole lifestyle for them, but would they do the same for you. Now I don't mean you are slaves to each other, but their should be equality in your relationship. If you want one thing and they want another, you both should compromise. Come together and find a half way point for both of you. If they don't want to even hear your opinions, and they just want to be selfish and decide for both of you, then they don't love you. If you just want to hang out with friends and every time they cause an argument that makes you stay home, then they don't love you. If they yell at you for the littlest things, they don't love you. And last, if they put you second over everything else, they don't love you. If you just need them, you're feeling depressed and you've been crying all day, if they see that and still leave to party, or just don't care how you feel, then guess what? They don't love you. If they call you names, mock you in front of people, hurt your feelings and never takes responsibility, then they don't love you. No one should ever feel attacked by their lover, physically or emotionally. Love isn't a one person job, it takes both of you to function.

Step Two: Leave

This is the most difficult step. I know breaking up with someone you love isn't so simple. Like Juice would says, "Easier said than done. I thought you were the one." He's right, easier said than done. You're going to contemplate if you should leave. You'll make all these excuses for them, but at the end of the day they're toxic and only holding you back from finding the right one. It takes a lot of strength to just break up with someone you feel so strongly for. The easiest way, in my opinion, would to gather your things and tell them right there. Tell them what they do to you, how they make you feel. Tell them you're tired of being mistreated and you're leaving. They will do anything to keep you. They'll tell you they will change that they can't live without you. They might even talk down to you, but you have to stand your ground and know this is for the better for yourself and for them. Once you get away, don't look back.

Step Three: Get your shit together.

This step is the best, here's why. Get your shit together. You have goals? achieve them. You want to get your dream job? Go get it. You want to lose weight? Diet and exercise. You want a make over? Go shopping and change yourself. Keep yourself busy. Hang out with friends, pick up extra shifts at work, stack your bread, make your money. When you start accomplishing these things alone you'll come to realize you don't need them anymore. Of course at first you will feel heart broken, but eventually you will see your life without them. Once you got all your shit, you'll feel amazing. When they see you again they will forever regret the way they treated you. And that is the best feeling, to know that you got out of that and made it. Keep going with your life and you never know who you might meet.

Final Step: Live

You can finally live for you. You are done with the tears, done with the heart ache. You may find another you may not. Either way, you're happy with yourself and where you are at. Be proud of yourself. You pushed your way through something most people can't. Keep doing you. Keep making yourself happy. Love yourself. And don't ever let yourself get back into anything like that again. You are amazing. You are beautiful. You are free.

The End

I hope this helped anyone feeling like they are in the same circumstances, and know you are never alone. There are many chat rooms for people to talk about their relationships with no judgement. Use them. God Bless and have a wonderful life full of love and happiness.