We Always Want What We Cannot Have

Look at the world—planet Earth; all 7.53 billion souls. I want you to pick out two. Two individuals of any gender, age, religion; across any of the seven continents, and seven seas, and five oceans; speaking any of the six thousand plus languages. Now, hope they are compatible.

Maths is not my forte but I know the chances are very minutely slim.

Yet, it happens. More so in this ever-developing world. We are more connected now than we were even ten years ago. Social media sends messages in an instant where postal mail would once haven taken weeks. Video calling means you can see the face of a person live who lives 5000 miles away. This changes the playing field of any relationship, but definitely for those long distance relationships out there. The price and ease of flights justifies the travel. It is no longer a reason not to, even when pushed to the edges of our planet.

Instead, nowadays, it is the loss of determination that ends relationships. The lack of trust when so far apart. Truth be told however, it's is not only when far away that trust is lost. Even the geographically closest relationships sometimes hide skeletons in the closet.

Yet on the odd occasion, it is the opposite that corrodes the bonds. It is the keen interest and the desire to be together that becomes too much. Two people go from talking, to living together in each others space, when perhaps one is not as ready as the other. It is intense.

Long distance relationships do not tend to develop in the normal way. (Then begins the debate of what is deemed normal...) Meeting, seeing, dating, explicit, relationship' is what I would personally deem the regular stages, but just like humans, there are going to be difference and variations. There is not one set path for all, or a right vs wrong way.

But now imagine meeting someone, then talking to them, then living together, back to talking, then living together, then suddenly deciding literally where in the world to live. You might get in a few dates and spend some quality time together, but you will always know that time together is limited. Does this change how people act and thus "feel?" Does knowing that it will end enhance, maybe over exaggerate, the feelings? The answer is unknown. I do however know, that we always want what we cannot have, but not so much when we have it.

Understand? Humans have a fickle nature. And that nature makes any relationship difficult. Knowing truly what you want, the little things as well as the big things, beyond the significant other, make knowing whether to gamble or fold a lot clearer in the game of love.