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Dating Someone You Know Is Not the One For You

By Catherine Warren "KittyRose"Published 5 years ago 3 min read
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Today, I wanted to talk about DATING, and Dating the RIGHT person. Dating a person who looks good on paper, but emotionally, you are not connected to them.

So, I wanted to know what you should ask yourself when thinking about dating:

  • I have asked myself “what do I want, and what qualities am I looking for?”
  • I know I feel comfortable in who I am, and I do put myself first.
  • I constantly think about my goals, and what I want to do with my life.

Choosing a life partner is a big decision, and not one to take lightly. When choosing a mate to date or marry. So, I suggest knowing your own role in creating a happy relationship, and being able to see and realize that it’s up to you to create the relationship you want.

I have made decisions based simply on what looks good, and I think you find yourself agreeing during the first part, only to find yourself feeling resentment. I know we love to feel connected to people. We want to feel close with other people. However what signs do we look at in the beginning, or pay attention to, to avoid future mistakes, even based on how good something, or someone, makes you feel when starting.

However, can it be better to be single than to use someone to fill a void? Because dating CAN be just for the experiences.

Taking the time to get to know them, seeing where it goes, seeing what it’s like to live in their world, with their friends, and hear about their experiences, even though I think, after a couple of dates, you know how you feel, so to keep on dating, are you now using that person for the experience? And is that fair to yourself, and the other person?

But dating guy after guy, where it just doesn’t go anywhere becomes so monotonous after a while, and can feel like a complete waste of time, which is annoying. For example, the guy I just met, LOVED the times we have spent, but I know I don’t like him the same way he does me

So, what about the other person in this situation? The one that doesn’t see me as “settling,” but the front-runner?

It’s especially not fair to them–and I think we’ve all been on both sides of this dating conundrum, and it completely sucks.

What I know now is that being single, and alone, is better than just filling a void. Do you think it’s more important to spend time with someone that you'll remember, and that will have an impact, to believe in love?

Most of us never set out to find, and fall into, a relationship for the wrong reasons, but it’s an unfortunately common process.

This could be the very thing that makes you so vulnerable to the wrong relationships in the first place–it will lead you to get involved not because a man, or a relationship is right for you… but because you are driven to fill the void.

So, when it comes to my current situation, I don't quite know what direction I'm going to take. More than likely, I will end it before it begins. In my head, to be fair, I'd rather just wait for who is going to be the right fit on all levels. I think when you are patient, and not thirsty you get what is designed for you.

Click onto my video, and hear my verbal thoughts on the matter. I would love to know what your thoughts are.

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As I sip without my Coffee....

Should we settle for a good person

even if they're not the right one who you are passionate about.

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