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I’m sure everyone has read at least one book about relationships from the so-called "experts." Each author has a different opinion about intimacy, but an overwhelming majority of them advise waiting for two to three months before "hooking up." Personally, I’ve never dated a man that is willing to wait that long (and even I couldn’t/wouldn’t hold out for months on end). The truth is that everyone is different and there are no rules. I know couples that hooked up on the first night they met and are happily married with kids. Still others waste time dating for months only to find out there’s no sizzle in the bedroom. When to get intimate is a personal call only you can make. But I do have a few guidelines regarding this subject.
1. Get information.
Google was invented for a reason. I don’t call it "stalking," I call it "doing your research." Wouldn’t you like to know if the guy has a criminal record before you sleep with him? I thought so. If the guy has a common name you’ll need to get creative to get the information you need.
2. Don’t go there.
My advice is to not let a man into your bedroom unless you plan on having sex with him. Apparently "blue balls" is a real phenomenon and men really hate to be teased.
3. Stop feeling evil.
Women need to stop "feeling bad" about liking sex. We are born with sexual desires just like men. If you want to do it, just do it already. Men are really turned on by a woman who loves sex. Of course, you need to make sure you’ve spent enough time getting to know him. When you feel comfortable with him, the sex will be much better anyway.
1. Show respect.
This means that you need to respect her boundaries. No means no. Listen, if it wasn’t for women (one in particular—your mother!), you wouldn’t even be here. Women deserve to be put on a pedestal and treated like queens. If you find yourself crossing the line, think about how you would feel if someone was doing that to your daughter or little sister. Even if you don’t have a daughter or sister...you get the point.
2. Never lie.
What makes a woman feel the most disrespected is when she’s lied to. Especially if the end goal is to get in her pants. Don’t tell her she’s the most beautiful woman you’ve ever seen or that you’re only seeing her if it’s not true. You don’t have to say anything. Stop lying!
3. Don’t push it.
I’m aware that men have some pretty twisted fantasies. What turns you on could totally turn your lady off. Don’t force your date to do something she doesn’t feel comfortable with. It’s just not worth it. Porn was invented for a reason…use it!