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When Love Turns Toxic

5 Signs You’re In A Toxic Relationship

When Love Turns Toxic...

Relationships usually always start out bittersweet. We get drawn to our partner for reasons only known to us and that we cherish. We could be attracted to them physically, or maybe we are swept away by their cunning personality. Maybe at one point we even hated them at first, but then found something in them that caught our eye. Whatever the reasoning may have been, something bloomed and a bond was formed with them; a spark ignited and we soon fell in love. Everything soon fell into place, and we found everything we had been looking for in life. Some of us even thought we had finally found the one, our soul mate; the person we were going to be with for the rest of our lives with.

Life isn’t a fairytale though, and nothing is guaranteed. Sometimes those bright, fluffy clouds that we were floating on darken, and we crash. We fall headfirst from the sky, and the person we fell madly in love with is the one who let us fall; the once burning flame has been extinguished. We no longer have any mental capabilities left to fight with; our love has turned convoluted.

5. More Bad Days than Good

If you are having more bad days than good this is a warning sign of a toxic relationship. This would consist of noticing that you are fighting more often than not, even if the severity of the fights hasn’t increased. The fights could be as minimal as arguing over who forgot to put toilet paper in the bathroom. Just the fact that you’re noticing that you’re not getting along as much counts in the scheme of things. All-in-all, if the overall feeling of the relationship feels like you are having more bad days than good with your partner, then something is not right. That should be a warning sign for you. If it feels like it is every other day that you and your partner are fighting, then that is not a healthy relationship by any means.

4. You Can’t Explain Why You’re In the Relationship

Normally, when someone asks you why you are dating someone you can give off a list of reasons. If you find your list is dwindling, or even worse, you can’t think of any reasons at all, then that is a warning sign that you are in a toxic relationship. You should always be able to come up with at least 3 to 5 positive reasons that you are in a relationship with someone. One of those reasons should always be, “Because they treat me really well.” When the positive reasons start to fade for being with someone then there is obviously something plainly wrong with that relationship.

3. Jealousy, Trust & Control Issues

These three things set off sirens when triggered; not even alarms anymore. Your partner should never have an issue with you talking to someone of the opposite sex. They should never question unless there have been previous fidelity issues on your part, whether or not you have been faithful to them. They should never get jealous when you speak to or look at someone of the opposite sex. If they do, run away. Run far, far away; because that is only a recipe for trouble in the end. Double standards are never okay either. If they are allowed to have friends of the opposite sex than why can’t you?

2. Unhappiness

Unhappiness in a relationship is a sign that something is wrong. If you’re feeling unhappy, try challenging that thought and asking yourself what is making you unhappy? Maybe you’re feeling like things aren’t the same anymore. If you feel like you need to hold back your emotions or your words just to avoid an altercation than that is a sign of a toxic relationship. You should never have to worry about speaking what’s on your mind. The other person should also always care about what you have to say or feel. Why stay somewhere, where you aren’t happy?

1. Chemistry

Maybe the feelings you once had for that person are depleting, and you no longer have anything left to talk about. You feel like conversations are being forced and have turned awkward. You also feel like you no longer have anything in common with your partner. Maybe you used to like doing some of the same things, now trying to find something to do together is like pulling teeth. You feel the emotional connection between the two of you has been broken. You no longer look at your partner the same way. Maybe you aren’t even attracted to them anymore and your sex life is pretty much gone. These are all guaranteed signs that something is not right in your relationship.

Coming To an End

If you have any, to most, to all of these signs, then you really need to reevaluate your relationship. Toxic relationships are debilitating to the mind, body, and soul. They are unhealthy and cause unneeded stress. They may be hard to end, especially when you love the person, but once they are over you will see, one day, that you made the right decision. You will be so much happier and healthier in the long run. 

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