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White Friends

Me with having a lot of white friends.

By Queen JordanPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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A relationship between black and white people have always been proof that friendship has no color. It's about personality and understanding of each other's cultures. I come from a community where the majority are African American. I only ever had one white friend in my whole life. To see how quickly I made friends with people that don’t look like me; it’s a relief. I go to a college in Providence. The black to white ratio is way different than in Philadelphia. I was aware of that when I applied to go there. With everything going on in the news I have created an irrational mindset. The mindset that I would automatically become an outcast. That I would have to deal with racial slurs and social inequality. Of course, some of you may be thinking “Miss, don’t you think you’re overreacting?”. Providence was a stranger to me, so I prayed that it would be welcoming.

I went for the first time during April. The school had an event so I went with my mom. For a while, I wasn’t connecting with anyone. The next day during an activities seminar I had a few chuckles with a few people. Eventually, I had a group of friends. In July I went back for orientation. The friends I made weren’t going to be there so I was alone again. I came a day early so there were a few people there. Mostly white girls so all the annoying stereotypes popped up in my head. I had a choice to make. Either I become a loner or try to make friends; so I walked over there. At first, it was overwhelming but they grew on me. Our quirkiness mixed together and became a drink for the Gods. During an assembly the next day I made some more friends. Two of them were supposed to be my roommates. Fortunately one of them became my best friend. I met the rest of my white friends a week after the class started.

Let me elaborate that at this point all my friends were white. There were black people there for me to befriend, but they weren’t the type I could get along with. Don’t worry I still have my black friends from Philly. A month in I had my squad of white folks. I officially became the token black friend for a few of them. Now for any black person in that position, lay down some rules. Believe me some white folks are quick to say 'nigga' just because you're their friend. So make sure they know that you don't play before they start. Now if you don't care then you don't care. This is to make sure there aren't any problems. One of my closest friends makes black jokes. I wouldn't say they're racist jokes, but sometimes it gets close. I can choose to be mad but, I rather draw the line on when it's out of control. Educate your white friends when it comes to jokes, not everyone is ok with them.

Overall, having white friends was something I would never regret. Hearing stories about where they live and their friends, it's very different from mine. I encourage having a wide variety of friends in your circle. Just because they are different, doesn't mean they won't bring the same amount of happiness as others. Even if the friendship fails there are many other people in the world that could be your friend. Having white friends opened my eyes to a lot of stereotypes. Eventually, I understand the world a little bit more.

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About the Creator

Queen Jordan

A catapillar surrounded by butterflies

•with patience my true beauty will show•

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