Who’s Invested More

Throughout relationships, we ask ourselves just what we are thinking. Are we holding up our end in the relationship? Is what I’m doing affecting the other person's actions?

Here’s some light to your questions. There are red flags all throughout a relationship. You know those things they do that make you shake your head or even ask yourself, “why ?” That's a red flag to start validating your current situation.

From the very beginning, you can always tell if one loves more than the other or even if one cares a bit more. There’s different levels but you always want to make sure you're on the same level. This would save so much time in the long run, for the simple fact the one that loves and/or cares more always ends up hurt at the end of the day.

I would have to agree that the way you act, treat, and/or talk to the other person in the relationship plays a roll in what they are doing. Did they see something that they misinterpreted? Did someone say something to that person that made them doubt you? Everyone always tries to be in everyone’s business but their own. But it has a lot to do with the position people hold in each other’s life.

As you approach the time where it’s that time to level-up your relationship or just call it quits because you see no future or even a reason to keep trying, ask yourself these questions and I can promise you, you will answer your very own question: do I love them more than they love me?

• Where is the phone stored at night? Is it on the charger in the other room or under his or her pillow?
• Do you know the pins/code or have a way to get into the other person's phone?
• Could you leave your phone unlocked and laying around as the other person never lets his or hers phone out of reach?
• Are you on their social media but don’t find one post of them on yours? (It can be vise versa.)
• Are you constantly finding yourself posting about them but they share nothing about you?
• If your relationship is non-PDA( public display of affection) as some are, are they spending every moment with you and loving on you or are they buried in their phone?

All these are just a few questions you may want to ask yourself to get you where you need to be and on the same level as your partner, or if there is even a partner, after all you open your eyes up to. Don’t settle to be comfortable. Be comfortable enough to not settle for anything less than what you deserve. Social media may be destroying relationships but know that social media also has a real fine way of showing the truth.

What people share, comment, or even like shows who they are and what they value in life. Know that the fact of the matter is it’s not hard to know which is in love more and gives more. Look and realize what you're doing before you evaluate the other.

• Does the opposite person come running when you need them, just as you stop drop everything in your life to help them?
• When you are all upset and things are bothering you, do they ask what’s wrong. Or do they just start a fight or, even worse, overlook your change in mood?
• Are you put first above all else or do you find many things come before you and you're cast aside?
• When hard times hit, do you always see that person go missing from your life, then watch them return when they feel you're in a better situation in life?
• Better yet, do they stay during the hard times but never apply themselves to helping you both become better in life as a unit?

Think to yourself if you answered, “yes” to just one question you have to ask. Are you willing to give your 100 percent in the relationship when the other isn’t even at a halfway mark, if 50 percent.

I agree there is a time where you give as much as you can. Don’t be shy from the truth that there is always a breaking point, a point where you stay or go. With everything in your mind, heart, body, and soul, you will know when it’s time to go.