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Why Are You Single?

Because I Choose to Be!

People often ask me why I am single.

I am 47, attractive, intelligent, fun, a genuine nice person, have so much love to give so I understand the question. Why has no-one snapped me up already?

I just can't answer that in one sentence, it is way too complicated.

But first of all, I will say this, I CHOOSE to be single and there are many reasons why.

Reasons for being single, not in any particular order:

  • I have been HURT (almost destroyed) by love in the past—not just once, twice or three times. It has happened again and again and again—I really have learnt that lesson now.
  • My experience of relationships is that the other person tries to control me and that just is not going to happen. I hate controlling people and will not let anyone tell me what to do. I really don’t want to be told what to do all the time, living by someone else’s rules sucks!
  • I get bored quickly, I can fall in love quickly but can just as quickly fall out of love too. Maybe that means I have never really been in love before. I don’t know. I don’t profess to be an expert on the subject!
  • I am bipolar. I have had 47 years to get used to that, but another person struggles with this and quite rightly so, I still do myself sometimes. Trying to keep up with my ever-changing mood and ideas is hard work, let alone the depression and mania I go through!
  • I have way too much to do with my time on Earth to bother trying to have a relationship with another man. I have wasted way too much time already and have got stuff to do you know.
  • I love my independence. I can do whatever I want to do whenever I want to do it and nobody will tell me I can’t!
  • I don't want to be tied down. Honestly, there are way too many gorgeous men in this world, I really could not choose one for ever. Seriously I don’t understand how people do that. Again, maybe I have never really been in love before?
  • No-one could keep up with my ever changing goals or it definitely wouldn’t be fair to them to have to. I change jobs, I change homes, I change cities, I change countries all at the drop of a hat! Where ever I lay my hat is my home, but it is very hard to expect someone else to do the same.
  • I don't want to compromise all the time. Actually, any of the time, call me selfish, but fuck that!
  • I like variety and yes that includes my men; black, white, Asian, tall, skinny, ginger, muscles, fat, short, whatever—I seriously love them all.
  • I can look after myself thank you very much. Men try to tell me all the time that they will look after me, seriously, I DO NOT need someone to look after me, financially or otherwise.
  • I'm not sure there is one person for everyone and am certainly wasting no more time looking for "the one." When I was young I truly believed I would find my prince and believe me I have kissed many, many, many, many frogs and still haven’t found him. So, I am quite happy to just get on with my life and stop looking for a needle in a haystack!
  • I observe other couples and I don't want what they have. I am sorry if some of my friends and family are reading this, but I really do not want what you have. Bickering, arguing, power struggles, game playing, lying and secrets—no, thank you very much.
  • I love my freedom. I LOVE MY FREEDOM. I cannot say this enough, freedom is so fantastic!
  • I don't feel lonely and love being by myself. Solitude is wonderful. I understand some people get lonely, but I don’t, I love being with myself!
  • My life is already full. I don't have room for a significant other. Although if Bob Marley was still alive I would consider making some room and squeezing him in!

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Jane Smith
Jane Smith

I write my feelings, my secrets, my distress and my desires.  All my stories are true. I have bipolar disorder so my life is like a thousand lives in one. Writing is therapy for me. I hope you enjoy my stories and poetry.

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