Why High School Relationships Suck
The Drama That Comes with Loving When You're Young
Ah, high school, the four years of our youth that seem to lose significance as the years pass by. Now I'm not saying the four years we spent in high school were insignificant, I'm just saying they aren't as important as we thought they were, specifically in the love department. Sure, we made friends, some of which we talk to today, and some enemies too, but high school was full, brimming almost, overflowing with drama. And, while entertaining, drama isn't all that fun when you happen to be at the center of it all.
Kids walk into high school, still under the impression that girls and guys just don't talk, and as the years go by, that impression slowly changes. Into feelings of LOVE. Yes, LOVE. You'd think, "What does a 14-year-old boy know about love?" Well apparently, according to him, he knows everything. Love is when two people date, go out together, get physical and never talk to anyone of the opposite (or same if you swing that way) gender ever again. To a 14-year-old girl, love is texting all day every day, being stuck together all day every day, getting chocolates and taking cute pictures of each other, as well as the occasional snog in the hallways (Ummm EW) and that's it. That's love.
Now, given the fact that kids walk into high school with that perspective, you'd think they'd walk out with something very different right? WRONG. That perspective is rooted deep inside you. While you might have a new idea with what love is, you still think that this is what it's supposed to be.
High school students believe that dating will always lead to marriage. No matter what, people date with marriage in mind—at least that was the experience I had. And if things don't go according to plan, the whole school MUST know and exaggerate the tiny issue. So here is why dating in high school sucks.
1. Rushing Into Relationships
In my case, many of the relationships in high school were rushed. A pair would meet one day, talk/text all night and decide they were destined to be together for the rest of their lives the next day. They decide this without knowing one another's likes, dislikes, habits and personality. Which I must say is absolute BULLSHIT. We only realize how dumb it is after it's all over.
2. High Expectations
This applies to all relationships, but I'm stressing it on first relationships, or if we really want to be cheesy, 'first loves.' This isn't really the student's fault, it's media's fault. After watching movies of perfect loves and growing up on Disney and Romantic books and comics, of course your perception of love and relationships is going to be fucked up. You expect a dozen roses at your door every time you fight, a candle lit dinner and a mariachi band for special occasions. So you walk into a relationship not knowing that roses are expensive, and mariachi bands cost more if you have specific songs in mind. High expectations in a relationship are usually the downfall, as nothing is going according to how it 'should' be going.
3. Publicity
As high schoolers, you are surrounded by idiots, literal idiots. Hormonal teens who 'ooo' and 'ahh' over everything, hooting when they see couples and spreading news all the time. I believe the social networkings of high schoolers is the fastest way to spread information, which is generally a very bad thing. Sometimes, not every one wants the whole school to know about their love life, and sometimes they do. But when all your personal problems are common knowledge to everyone you know and don't know, it kinda sucks. Then there is the constant opinion that comes with everyone knowing about your relationship.
So if you're in high school, thinking that it's the end of the world, just know that it's not.
About the Creator
Astraea GG
I'm a student at the University of Toronto, I cover a wide range of topics, from heartbreak to student loans, book reviews, movie reviews, poetry, daily hacks, recipes, and self-care. Enjoy!
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