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Why I Don't Text Old Friends

It's not them, it's me.

By True DanyellePublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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Not talking to my friends has had some tremendous upsides in these past 2 years and I write that with the loftiest tone I can muster. Of course, there are days I want to hear the collective "HEY!" when I walk up a casual hangout spot's bar, but that's only once every six months and the feeling is fleeting. I'm a creative type and I spend more time in my own head than anywhere else on the planet. Losing contact with friends is honestly one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Let me further explain:

1. No Drama

Drama is nothing more than using other people's problems for entertainment while creating more problems for yourself in the process. Unless it's on TV or my fiancee had a bad day, I rarely ever hear about gossip. This has had the same effect on me mentally as cleaning my room does. There's no clutter just clarity. More room for complex problem solving on the next project and more silence for me to recognize inspiration when it comes. Drama is creativity's poison. I don't plan to drink the Kool-Aid.

2. Learning Self Reliance

Way too many times have I seen people ask their friends for advice when they knew the right answers themselves. I was able to adjust to not hearing my parents when I moved out and to not hearing my teachers when I left school so why would one bring friends along for the ride through the duration of life? I was able to find out if I was strong and smart enough on my own. This was a crucial step before getting engaged to the love of my life. I can honestly say that I don't need (as in I wouldn't die the next day) her. I have nothing to gain from her but the happiness her nature supplies and when the times get tough I can carry my own problems and watch her smile.

3. Actual Self-Love

Self-love is not ridding my life of all stress, but it is taking time to figure out what stresses me out in the first place. The only way to do that is to analyze my actions without outside opinion. Old friends are directly in the way of that task. Most of my teenage years were spent stressing, coming to the rescue of friends to the point where I had no identity without them. I did nothing for myself and they didn't know better to tell me to do otherwise. Their removal from my life created the quiet freedom needed to figure out my purpose. I can say that was the true first step in loving myself.

Friends are not all bad of course. You need to keep in contact with humanity or you may fall insane but I think the lax emotional trade we share with people should be reserved for the golden years. Not when you're 70, but when you have yourself figured out and in no way would become a leech or burden to the other person. When you are able to pull optimism out of your own soul that is when I believe it is time to make friends. I never want to say that someone makes me a better person but if they are a great person to be around... well that can get a text back.Thanks so much for taking the time to read this. I truly appreciate it. If you like the style I'm packaged in, I'm also pouring my story out on Instagram, Twitter, and Anchor. If you want to say hi feel free to follow and/or DM me. Have a great day!

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About the Creator

True Danyelle

Lover of a good story, a beautiful song, and well-crafted scenery. I write stories and scripts for music videos that should have been.

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