Why The "Beta" Male Is The Better Male...

I have come to notice as a woman that the majority of other women seem to want to go for the "Alpha" male, as far as physical attraction goes. The "Alpha" male is the big, buff "let's go to the gym" sort and most women seem to lose their shit over these kinds of men. You see it all over in the media, whether it be on the internet or magazine covers or even, as I saw recently on a calendar, to support local charities. I have nothing personal against big, buff, burly men, however, they're simply not my type. At all.

This is where the topic of "Beta" males comes in. I have always kind of been the odd woman out in most social situations, so this aspect of how I function doesn't surprise me in the slightest. Ever since I was young I always had more male friends - I just seem to get along with them better. I like the total and complete lack of competition between opposing genders. So it goes without saying that I would prefer men in relationships as well. Not only men, but I love what are considered to be "Pretty men". Like myself, the men I find myself attracted to usually have no interest in sports, or physical development in the muscle area anyway.

So let's define "Beta" male - loosely anyway - and I paraphrase...The Beta male is the musician to the athlete, the writer to the politician, the director to the actor. If you're catching my drift, they are usually in supporting roles, rarely in the spotlight, unlike the alpha male sort. They like it this way but are largely misinterpreted as followers in society. I disagree with this assumption. Unlike the alpha counterpart, that relies on aesthetic and strength of character (and body) to attract a mate, the Betas are all about emotional intelligence and talent in various areas of life.

Have you ever had a friend that chases the "Bad Boy" type and ends up getting hurt EVERY damn time, but she goes back to the same type of men over and over again? These types of men almost always fall into the alpha male category. Cue Facebook picture of your friend hanging off the overly muscular and tattooed arm of this leather-clad behemoth. I personally have never in my life understood the attraction of these men and I remain friends with all my exes, probably because they all treated me with respect, and our breakupswere always a mutual and calmly executed process.

So yes. I do like "pretty boys". I love men who play guitar and can keep up a conversation about philosophy instead of the latest football game. There is nothing sexier than a man who can go on about something he is passionate and really knowledgable about (without being arrogant, mind you). Intelligence is sexy as f*%@.So I challenge you, the next time you consider dating, to find yourself a "Beta male" - you won't be disappointed.

I am in no way attempting to claim that there aren't smart alpha males out there, but really... how many buff nerds do you see walking down the street? Alpha males are overrated. Give the underdog a chance and do yourself a favour. I assure you, you won't be disappointed.