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Yes I Know We're Young

Yes, I know am only 19.

By Forever CharityPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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Let just start with the fact that I have heard it all about being married. Yes, I know am only 19. Yes, I know that marriage is not a game and its something to take seriously. Yea I am very aware that I have my whole life to live and to wait to get married.

BUT LET ME TELL Y'ALL SOMETHING, I FOUND THE LOVE OF MY LIFE. I don't need to wait to marry the man that I am meant to be with for the rest of my life. I am ready to build and grow with someone. I am ready to do things that not many Millennial really do anymore. I am one of the very few that don't have kids. Yet I am married by almost 20 and solely focus on school and building a foundation to bring kids into the world. Millennial no longer ever think long-term about things that will affect their life long term.

My husband and I grew together while we where dating being high school sweethearts had a big role to play in. But we were most importantly friends before we got serious and dated for three years. We built history with each other and when we decided together that it was time for us to get married it was no second thoughts about it. You're probably thinking you have no idea what you're talking about or you're so young, how do you have your life figured out? Trust and believe that there's a lot of things I don't know and I live my life based off of the things my family has shown me. Yet, on the other hand, I don't have anything figured out and the only thing that I am for sure about is that I love my husband and that probably the only thing I have down correctly so far.

I have a lot to learn in marriage life but I won't take one moment for granted. I learn new things every day being married to my husband. The number one thing I hear every day from an older woman that is you have to cook for him and clean after him and do the basic housewife things, which is not going to work for me; that is not going to happen. We are a partnership, which means we will be doing things together. From grocery shopping, cleaning the house, and even trying to figure out our normal in our marriage. We are young I get it but my age has nothing to do what being in love and being capable of handling the responsibilities of another person life and feelings.

Being in a military marriage is definitely going to have its tolls on our marriage but it can only get better. Being away from each other can only make the bond stronger. It builds the urge to be with each other even more. The period of time when he is going for who knows what you can learn things about yourself. You can learn that there are some things that you won't be able to do and handle without him there and those are the things you will hold dear.

But anything's possible for us, as being as young as we are, we have technology there for communication. Everything is we will learn together because that is the foundation we have to build together.

As my great grandmother who has been married since she was eighteen years old would say, “Marriage is a partnership, everything you do individually will reflect on each other. Never forget that trust, communication, and compromise are the most important things.”

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About the Creator

Forever Charity

I am just trying to get through the day without feeling dumb and young.

Hi, my name Charity and am 19 years old, I know young right. Most of these stories are my experiences and what I go though in life. I hear to share the things I learn.

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