You CAN Choose a Happier Life

You have a choice! Amazing how simple yet complicated idea lies behind it. If you are one of those people who think that once you choose something, you have to stick to it no matter what; this simple sentence is no longer that simple. How do you overcome this self-belief? When is the time to opt for the choice instead of biting the bullet? Would you be considered a quitter if you decide to leave?

Marriage for me was always the forever choice. Meaning, be very careful whom you pick because you will need to stick to your decision. Picking a life partner is very difficult. It is like getting a pet from the pet store. You can do a lot of research on its qualities and know what you want. You see it in the store, you love it, it seems to love you, but how you will truly get along will only be tested once you bring it home. You may get along just fine or it will be a constant battle.

I do believe that women, in general, tend to be more caring and forgiving than men. By nature, they are the menders. Hence, they are more likely to try to fix a broken relationship, especially when children are involved. To a certain point, they will put their happiness on hold for the greater good. As much as we would like to think, women are not superheroes with super patience and unbreakable heart. They will break, feel helpless, and hopeless when exposed to long enough mistreatment.

If you are in a relationship, where you are the one constantly or majorly fixing things, perhaps it is time to reconsider your choice. And you do actually have a choice. There are many signs to let you know when it is time to wise up and take a leap of faith.

Listen to your body.

The main warning sign to let you know it is the right time is your health. When a person is physically healthy, he is able to deal with a variety of obstacles. However, when your mind starts flooding your body with ailments just to let you know something is wrong; it is time to start considering other options. For many, this might not be so simple. At the beginning, it is just acne appearing in unusual places, sudden skin rash, or more and more hair sticking to the comb. You may not link this to your current situation. Why should you? Your life is not perfect but it can be worse. The truth is, bit by bit, it will be worse because you are heedlessly heading for the dark tunnel ignoring all the warning signs along the way.

Someone may suggest finding something you love and dilute your hardship with that. It may have two outcomes: you will fool yourself in finding that peace of mind while your body screams the opposite—the self-destruction is inevitable, or it will arm you and help you to finally put your foot down and change your life for good.

So what should you do?

One thing is certain, if you value your health, if you long to see yourself in the arms of happiness, if you think that you were born for a reason other than to be someone else’s doormat, you need to know that YOU have the power to change your life. You have the choice to stop yourself from self-destruction. You do not need to sacrifice your happiness for what in reality is not the greater good. The choice you have made at some point in your life is not final no matter what. If you deem your past choice unwise and destructive, make a better one and leave the toxic one behind.

Thus, if you are in the relationship where you cannot honestly admit that if you could turn back time, you would make the same pick, it is time to re-evaluate your life.

At the end of the day, people may come and go, but you will have to spend the rest of your life with yourself and the choices you make. So make them count.