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You Don't Need No Man (Or Woman)

Self-Love

By Faraji PettyPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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So I know many of us single or taken see so many couples and romance movies/stories and feel as though there is this “pressure” to be in love or in a relationship. Well, I’m here to squash that idea. As you go through different stages of your life, especially in high school and college, you watch TV series where high school students are focused on trying to get with a guy or trying to get with a girl; because of this, we put so much time and effort into trying to be with someone and fall in love. Since a young age, we are exposed to the realities of how important it is to be in love with someone or have a boyfriend or girlfriend. But these shows don't have much content where the moral of the story is being single or focusing on self-goals. Not only TV series but all media outlets encourage this idea of being in a relationship or being in love, in books, in songs, even magazines where you see new about celebrities, most of the time it is around some subject of love. I myself, have been a victim of this, listening to the lyrics of love songs and wishing that I can find the man of my dreams and be madly in love. Or that Ill go out somewhere and fall in love with someone just from the sight of them across a room. When in reality I was just living in a fantasy world, my expectations of love was unrealistic, and I should have put more time and effort into bettering myself and figuring out what my goals are, and not worry about boys or love.

Now graduating college I see that if you’re meant to be with someone and if you’re meant to be in love, then it will happen. It may not be in the time span that you want, but sometimes you just have to get over it and move on. So many people lose themselves because they are trying to force something that shouldn't be or trying to figure out why they're single and why they don't have a boyfriend. DON'T. I know that it is hard to get over and difficult to not be with someone whom you may want to be with, but it is just an obstacle that everyone is going to go through, but it depends on how you go about it. You can let it take over you, or you can take it and let it make you stronger. This is exactly what I have done, and it definitely makes a difference in your life.

Don’t forget to take a step back, look at what your goals are, and what you want to do in your life. Which I feel like it is so important to be able to put yourself first rather you are in a relationship or not. You are living your life for yourself and being with someone romantically is only a portion of your life.

If you are single and see a couple, hear a love song, or watch a romantic movie, don’t get upset or wish that you were in a relationship. Instead just appreciate the situation and tell yourself that love will find you and you don’t necessarily need to go searching for it.

In your world, you are the most important person to take care of and love. Reach your goals, do what you want, satisfy yourself, and you will be happy and loved. I know how easy it is for us to forget about ourselves and what our goals are, and get tied up in love stories or trying to please someone else.

So remember you don't need no man or woman because you have yourself, and that’s the most important person to love.

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