You Don’t Have to Stick Around

You found him. The man you knew you’d fall in love with, and over time you proved yourself right. In the beginning everything was oh so perfect. He opened door, took you out, bought you flowers and jewelry and little things to make you smile. It was all so perfect for he first few months. You knew this is exactly what you wanted. Until the day came that he showed his true colors.

The first red flag you should’ve noticed was the way he hid his phone, or always had it flipped over. You were too oblivious because the only thing that caught your eye was his beautiful smile. The next should’ve been when he told you to stop talking to all of your friends, and yet he was still allowed to. You listened to him though and deleted your friends, even the ones for over 5 years. You thought it was worth it to save your relationship. He never did any of the things he required from you, it was a double standard. Soon you notice his anger get worse and worse as arguments occurred and words were exchanged. He would hurt you verbally, and tear you down with the words he spit at you. They cut through you like a knife and the wounds would never heal, but your heart still beat for him and you forgave his apologies. Why? Because you had faith in him. Faith that should’ve been rendered a few months in. He promised you that he would change, things would be different, and to just give him another chance. And so you did, because you still believed in him even when nobody else did.

It seemed as if for a while things were perfect again, y’all went on dates and spent every minute of everyday in the presence of each other. Then one day you get a message from an old friend, who happened to be a guy, and it triggered him once again. His insecurities arose and he demanded you to delete every form of social media or it would be the end of your relationship. You were devastated so you deleted everything you had, yet still he didn’t have to do anything. You overlooked it because you knew he was just upset. Despite all the things he has done wrong, the way he’s talked to you, the fact that he talked to other girls, and only gave you part of his attention you let it slide. Because you thought in time he would come around.

Six months later you move in with him, because the timing felt right. What more could you ask for? This would fix everything right? No, you’re wrong. It seems to only make things worse, because you had no space to yourself and you were able to see everything that was wrong. You were there every time he did something, and you sat through it.

But guess what? YOU DON’T HAVE TO DO THAT. You have the choice to take a stand and leave. It’s time for you to stand up for yourself. You are capable of being happy, if you take the toxicity out of your life. You are strong, beautiful, loving, and honest. You deserve the world, and sweetie if you stick with him you will not get that. You deserve love and respect, something the he will never be able to give you. A toxic relationship will never bring out the good in life. It will only tear you down until you’ve lost all hope. Get out while you can. Don’t get sucked into the unhappy world of a toxic relationship. Do the right thing and make your move. Better yourself, and create the future that you know you deserve. He will never change, so stop telling yourself he will come around. Once you give him up you will find the one who is truly perfect for you. The one who will not put you down, control you, or manipulate you. He will love you whole heartedly, care for you like never before, and show you a whole new world that comes either true love. Just give him up, free yourself. Allow yourself to get what you deserve, the work will follow once you’re free.