Young Love

That feeling when you receive that text message whilst you're trying to concentrate on your lesson in high school. When it's dinner time and all you want to do is text him rather than socialise with your friends. The funny feelings you get when he messages you. You just can't beat it. And then, you guys make it official at the age of 16. The world at your feet, beginning your life in adult hood.

My name is Rebecca and this is my story to prove to young lovers that it may not be just "lust" and if you really do try then you can have the most amazing, healthy relationship even at a young age.

So, this is my story...

Back in 2014 when I was 16 and preparing for my year 11 exams, I was starting to experiment with boys and find out what the ideal boy was for me and what type of people made me happy, excited and love life. At the age of 16 I had a lot of boyfriends and boys who I had just flirty relationships with. Don't get me wrong I didn't "do things" with these boys... I just had a good time and enjoyed the affection and compliments I would receive at this age by boys. When you grow up in a society full of the "perfect" image of what a girl should look like and you receive these lovely messages telling you that you are "perfect" and exactly what a boy could ever want and dream for, it makes you feel pretty damn special! But, in my personal experience I got bored very easily and I would break up with these boys and those boys would break up with me. I would feel like the world was trying to beat me down and that no body would ever love or I would love anybody. So, many feelings, so much thinking ahead at such a young age... So much panic for a chapter I had only just begun, trying to rush to the end of the story to see if it ends nicely or not.

I went through a bad relationship with an older boy when I was 15 and he was very controlling and seemed to have zero self confidence and just didn't seem to trust me. This was a lot of pressure for me. After many break ups and going back I finally called it quits and felt GREAT!

I had a break with relationships and just causally dated and texted people using good old BBM. So, I had just turned 16 at the start of February and I had this best friend who was also a boy. He had fallen for me though and I just didn't feel the same so, he found me this boy who he was friends with he said he was "a great laugh" and "such a lovely person."

I told him to give him my BBM pin and to add me and I'd pretend I knew nothing about it...

And so, it began with my current boyfriend. We have been together for four years now and I am still so in love and still so happy as I was from day one.

The first year (in my experience) is a pretty tough year. You are finding all about your new lover. You may find things that you adore about that person and you may find things that you just can't stand. At this point this is when people give up (This is when I used to give up). But, if you feel that there really is something special about the relationship that you are in and that you are willing to really try for this person then hang on in there!

I found that in the first year of my relationship there was a lot of arguments over very petty things. Little, irrelevant things that don't matter. But, these things really seem to get on both yours and partners nerves. You battle it out and possibly speak to each other like rubbish. I believe that this is you and your partner trying to push each other to see how far you can both go, to see if you are both strong enough for the relationship to work.

In my experience, there was a big argument that started from something so small. In any other occasion this would of been nothing but, I believe my boyfriend and I had to have this massive row. It ended in tears and it also felt like a massive weight had been lifted from both of our shoulders. We both felt so relieved and content. We took a deep breathe, got changed into something nice, and went out for a normal night as we were on holiday.

After returning from this holiday at the end of our first year together and still now, we have not had a single "petty" argument. Sometimes I will quick off a fuss if it is my time of the month but he knows how to cheer me up and we are full of laughter in no time.

If you feel like that you're relationship is just argument after argument over petty things but, you feel so, in love with your partner then hang on! You could work out it out and it could flourish into such a happy relationship.

A healthy relationship is trust, respect, love, affection and most importantly communication! The key is to communicate with your partner. This will resolve a lot of arguments as most arguments start because of misinterpretation of a situation.

Thank you for reading. Stay tuned for my next story :)