Delilah Jayde
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How I Finally Started Working Out (Even Though I Hated It)
I always thought working out was just in my mind: that I wasn't working out regularly because I hadn't figured out how to train my brain to just do it, and not stop doing it. For a lot of hobbies, this is the usual pattern: Try it, do it regularly, and eventually, you'll highlight all the great things about what makes it so much fun and enjoyable for you, therefore motivating you to keep doing it.
By Delilah Jayde5 years ago in Longevity
If You're Wondering Why You Suck at Dating, This Is Probably Why
The truth is: not everyone wants to flit from one person to the next for the rest of their lives. You're at that stage where you want to get serious, but every relationship you put effort into still seems to fizzle out after a certain period of time. You wonder if it's something you said, or something you did since every relationship ends up the same way, and you eventually conclude that it's probably a weird combination of both of those things. Coincidence? Possibly. Is there a lesson that can be learned here? Absolutely.
By Delilah Jayde5 years ago in Humans
5 Strong Relationship Habits that Sometimes Appear Toxic
Relationships are a complicated creature to understand. We hear all about it from family and friends all the time: you fight, yell at each other, someone's crying and then suddenly your emotions are all over the place and you're not sure about your relationship, let alone what you're going to make for dinner. Then a few days later, you're holding hands walking down the street all over again, laughing about some stupid meme you saw the other day. Some couples can go on following this pattern for years and still maintain a strong bond throughout all the turmoil of disagreements and screaming matches, while others might be more adamant about solving all their relationship problems right away to avoid conflict may not last as long as long term as others.
By Delilah Jayde6 years ago in Humans
30 Last Minute Date Night Ideas for Couples on a Budget
In every relationship, whether a new relationship or one that's been through the honeymoon phase before, date night is an essential part of keeping the flame alight. But sometimes it can be hard to work around that expensive dinner spot that will really impress, or that movie you wanted to watch but you know that it won't really be as special as you want it to be. Sometimes you just want to have that spontaneous, fun night out without breaking the bank!
By Delilah Jayde6 years ago in Humans
The Single's Guide to Returning to the Dating Scene
If you've been hiding under a rock for the last little while, perhaps feeling a little bit lonely, wishing you could share that last slice of pizza with someone else, or maybe you're fresh out of a relationship and you're ready to try again—just staring out into the vast blue ocean we call dating can be a little bit intimidating.
By Delilah Jayde6 years ago in Humans
Life Lessons From Broken Long-Term Relationships in Your 20s
The end of a long term relationship is a lot like raising a child; it's frustrating, can often be loud and demeaning, and you're usually left in a puddle of a mess without any rhyme or reason as to how you ever possibly convinced yourself that any of this was a good idea to begin with. But the end of a long term relationship, specifically in your 20s, can be even more frustrating and full of hate; you're young and inexperienced, broken, and with no idea how to be single. There are countless amounts of articles and blog posts online that could give you everything you need to know about working through your breakup: from how to get over your ex, to things you should never do after a break up, to websites that weasel single people straight into them dirty porn advertisements. And while we comb through these patronizing methods of online dating and meet-up sites to try to sort out what feelings we have left, I have found that there isn't really a place that showcases the true terror of what it feels like to have half of your soul torn out of your body, tendrils of your insides spilling out of your eyes, and your nostrils in big, messy globs. One would think that helpful breakup advice could potentially render a person quite wealthy beyond measure...unfortunately, I don't really have any of that. In fact, I'm quite uncertain anyone really has any at all, and it's most likely because it all comes down to being really sad for a while before the countless masturbation sessions just end up boring you and you wander off again in search of your next future soulmate/ex. With all that being said, cleaving off the end of a long term relationship during that moment in your life when serious adulthood is just within finger's reach, all while you're still standing knee-deep in the goop-y, green sludge that is your youth can be a great teaching moment. Therefore, I present to you: the lessons I have learned from surviving single life in my 20s. Enjoy my pain.
By Delilah Jayde6 years ago in Humans
How To Tell If Your Boyfriend's Female Friend Is "Just A Friend"
We've all been there at one point: your boyfriend chats with another girl, they exchange phone numbers, they spend time together occasionally and are connected on social media. You may or may not know their history as friends (i.e. if they were exes, have mutual friends, or if they went to school together), but what you do know is that it makes you feel a little bit uncomfortable. It's warranted of course: after all, you're the girlfriend. But not all of these kinds of friendships are serious matters that you need to worry about, and it can be difficult to tell which is which without being too intrusive. Here are 10 questions you can ask yourself to determine if you should take a deep breath and relax, or if you should think about having a serious talk with your boyfriend.
By Delilah Jayde6 years ago in Humans
A Letter to the Heartbroken
This letter was never written with pen and paper for the person it was intended for, and I don't think I will end up sharing it with the individual described, as we are not as close as we used to be. But it felt right to share, and I hope that at the very least that it helps get you through whatever it is that is coming up next in your corner of the Universe.
By Delilah Jayde6 years ago in Humans
Avoid Asking This Question When You're On A Date
I remember going out once with this guy I went to school with back in college where we went for a quiet dinner and then out to play billiards afterwards. The conversation was pretty good, and we were just getting to know one another so there was lots to talk about. We were casually chatting about the kinds of people we had been seeing and dating when he proceeded to ask:
By Delilah Jayde6 years ago in Humans
Ten Things You Should Never Do After a Break-up
Break-ups are painful, whether you were the one to break things off, or the one who was left. You go through different phases of stress, withdrawal from your regular daily activities and the people in your life, and you probably cry a lot; that's OK. It is a moment for emotions and life changes to run high, and a time for you to ask yourself all the questions: what went wrong? Did I do something? Were we really not meant to be?
By Delilah Jayde6 years ago in Humans
- Top Story - March 2018
10 Things Not to Post on Social Media While You're in a RelationshipTop Story - March 2018
With the rise of social media comes the inevitable need to showcase our social status as often as we can. The internet has now made it an easy place to brag, complain and share our lives, with apps like Snapchat that make it simple to snap a photo and let all your friends know you had lasagna for dinner and have it disappear in 24 hours.
By Delilah Jayde6 years ago in Humans
Who Picks Up The Bill On The First Date?
So you went out with him after all! Good on ya'. You had a great time, a nice meal, and a lot of "getting to know one another." You order dessert, and you find out he likes chocolate over strawberry. Great. The waiter comes over to your table and leaves a small black tray with a daunting piece of paper on top, and a smile before leaving you to it. Suddenly, only a single question remains: who pays the bill? The man, the woman, or both? Maybe once you’ve been dating for a while, you could agree on what works for you as a couple, but in the early, nerve-racking days, it can be tough to figure out when you've only got mere seconds to decide. Is there a dating formula to determine the right answer here, or some dating etiquette book to check out? A 2015 Sage Journal article breaks this down for us a little bit: over 17,000 heterosexual, unmarried men and women were asked to determine who pays on the first date. Despite the fact that 74 percent of the men and 83 percent of the women report that both members of the couple should contribute to dating expenses after dating for six months, 76 percent of men said they feel guilty when accepting women’s money on the first date. 39 percent of women wished men would reject their offers to pay while 44 percent of women were bothered when men expected women to help pay. Yet even in today's day and age, there still doesn't seem like a solid, right-or-wrong answer to this question, but more so a few general guidelines that are widely accepted when it comes to our dating etiquette.Much of the data in the Sage Journal article states that there is a clear illustration of how people might be resisting or conforming to traditional gender norms. Historically, "dating" was related to the male’s displaying benevolent sexism, dominance, and the ability to fulfill the breadwinner's role during courtship, thus the traditional ideal that the man should pay for the first date and, ideally, for a few more into the relationship. Realistically, it does seem to be the courteous thing to do and suggests a sense of responsibility, stability in his own finances, and the level of enjoyment of his date’s company. Farnoosh Torabi, a female writer for time.com's Money column said in a post from 2014 that, "If I ever insisted on paying my half at the end of a first date when you offered to treat, it may have been because I never wanted to see you again. My persistence to pay was—at best—code for, 'Let’s just be friends'." That being said, there certainly is no reason why a woman shouldn’t offer to pay for a drink before or after dinner or make some other small gesture to contribute towards the date. The key to who pays on the first date is simple: it is a test to showcase how the man handles himself and not how the dollars and cents are divided. Whether the man or woman instigated the date, the man should be prepared to pay first. Can't afford a nice dinner? Try a coffee date, because it shouldn't take an expensive meal to get to know if you can connect with someone. If the woman insists on paying or putting something of her own towards the bill, accepting it with grace instead of immediately allowing them to pay or rejecting them outright will score you more points in the long run—if there is still a chance, that is. Bernardo Mendez of Your Great Life TV states: “If during the course of the first date you decide that you absolutely don’t want to see this guy again, insisting on paying for your half can help you signal more clearly that you’re not open to it.”The trick to it is not to make the cheque scenario awkward when it arrives to your table. An impressive way for a man to handle the bill is to discreetly settle it on his way to the men's room in order to avoid having any conversations about it. Trust me, you'll be MVP of the night with this move, fellas. The important take away from this is to know that paying for a date is more about the person than it is about the money, whether it is the first date, the second date, or the one-year anniversary! Paying for things generally gets easier as the relationship deepens and evolves so it is best to put your focus on the person in front of you rather than in the weight of your wallet. The chivalry at the beginning of a relationship is important, so prioritize this during the first few weeks of dating someone new.
By Delilah Jayde6 years ago in Humans