Dear Future Husband

Dear Future Husband,

I hope this letter finds you in spirits of happiness. I’m unsure if we have met or when we will meet. I hope when the chance encounter happens, it’s a memory that never fades as time passes on. I’m writing to you to let you know that there is hope amongst all of the despair of feeling as if you're not enough. To disregard the feeling that it hasn’t worked out and you may not get it right. I wanted you to know I’ve been waiting and you're worth waiting for. I hope this letter will encourage you to have faith in love when it all seems to be lost in translation with others.

I’m writing this to you to support you, encourage you and to promise a lifetime of love and happiness.

My husband to be, love me for me and all my flaws. Don’t mold me into perfection because I’m unique and different. That’s what makes me who I am.

Don't ask me to change because you should love my body, my laugh, the annoying things I do, my smile, and everything else about me. To change me changes who I am.

I'm not perfect, and like Brad Paisley said, “How boring would that be?” in his song called "Little Moments."

I expect teamwork in everything we come across. It’s a shared relationship babe, and it takes two. If you don't cook, be with me in the kitchen and let me know that you're willing to try. Dishes aren't just for me to do. Help me wash and dry them, so I can splash water on your face or put bubbles on your nose. We can have fun doing household work. Do laundry with me and help make things fun. Let us enjoy each other’s company.

Let us chase each other through the house with squirt guns. Let us delay each other’s leaving to work by getting a kiss goodbye, then taking the car keys in a playful way and running away. As we chase, we'll laugh and want more time. Let us create moments so small that leave big impressions.

If I bring home a stray cat or dog and give you the puppy dog face, come to me. Then wrap your arms around me and kiss my forehead and say, “Baby, I know you want to help, but we don't have the space, time or money. I'll help you find him a home."

If I'm mad at you or we're fighting, let me cool off. Put forth an effort to say that we were both wrong even if only one of us was wrong. It takes teamwork, and we can never go to bed mad at each other. If we are still mad before going to bed, then we have to stay up and work through it. We need to make sure that we feel important and loved. Having unresolved issues and being mad at each other only divides us.

Don't be jealous. If you see something or someone talking to me that upsets you, tell me in a calm and respectful manner. I can change whatever it is. I married you for a reason, and I want only you. The marriage needs communication so that we can understand how we each feel.

I do not have OCD when it comes to cleaning, and I may never have a perfect looking house. I'm human, and our home is lived in. We don't need it to look like a magazine home. If you don't think that my efforts are good enough, then help me clean and don't complain about it; as I said, team effort.

If I gain weight and you are becoming concerned that it's affecting my health, don't tell me I need to change my eating habits or that I need to go to a gym. Look at me with those loving eyes and tell me that you're concerned that I may run into health issues because of some weight gain. That we still have a lifetime to spend together. Be supportive and encouraging. and say, “How about we change what we eat and go to the gym together?” If I've gained weight and you're more concerned about it affecting my looks, then you're going to ruin our marriage.

Don't make promises you can't keep. Don’t bring my hopes up then shatter them with disappointment. Communicate with me at all times.

Let me know that you love me every now and then. Its nice to be reassured that I'm still the one you want for a lifetime.

Don't do what everyone else does like candy and flowers on Valentine's Day. Do something that would only be what you would do. Be original and be you.

You don't have to hold my hand every day or kiss me every day, but be affectionate towards me. I need that, and I'll do the same in return.

Don't ever hide anything from me. We have to tell each other everything, or almost everything. There are no secrets. If we can’t trust each other enough to know everything, then problems will arise. Secrets are a recipe for a relationship that is bound to fail.

If you want to do an activity that I don't want to and vice versa, then compromise with me; it can be win-win.

Laugh with me, pray with me, wipe my tears away, play with me and let our marriage be fun.

Dear future husband, it seems as if I'm asking for too much.

I can promise you that I will be faithful to you. That I will love you unconditionally, strive to be the best wife possible. I’ll remind you why you chose me, and remind you all the reasons why I love you and chose you.

I will pray for you, wipe away your tears, be by your side through bad times and the good times, and most of all, make our journey through life memorable, fun and enjoyable!