Is It the Distance or Is It Not Love?

This is a well-talked about topic, so it's probably familiar to you. Long distance relationships; can I do it, can I not. I believe a lot of people would say they can’t, and wouldn’t be in a long-distance relationship. I also believe those same people would find it hard to decide when the time comes, because as we all know it’s easier said than done. But I strongly believe nobody wants to be in a long-distance relationship when you're in love with someone. It's almost like not having a part of you with you, but we all know that thing called LIFE! She just does what she wants to do, I think life’s a she, because, you know, mother Nature, my mother land, there are so many things we attribute the pronoun "she" to, so yeah, I think life’s a “she,” but I digress. We don’t plan for the distance, things come up, like work, family, school, and so much more. These things cause us to re-evaluate our life and relationships, so I think there are 3 possible outcomes when you’re thinking about your significant other. One, you leave with them, two, you leave without them, three, you stay with them, and not leave at all. Ha! But we all know it can be more complicated than that, sometimes we don’t even have options, life deals you the card, and tells you where to play it, whether you like it or not.

But let’s go with you leave without them, cause long distance relationships is what I am trying to talk about here. When I left my boyfriend for school, I still loved him, and I believed everything would work out eventually, I think many people like me, whatever the reason you were leaving for, must have thought the same as I did. So, in the first few months you guys are apart, you do everything to keep in touch, FaceTime, calls, Skype, because yes, Skype is still a thing. You look for ways to make sure the love burns, some ways may not be all that good, some may, but there are other factors, you are in a whole other environment. There are new people, new cultures perhaps, new responsibilities, new goals, and so many new things, it is going to be hard adapting to that while also trying to keep something that is not so new. This is where you begin to wonder why you are in a relationship, this is where the test of real love begins, at least some type of test, because your love can be tested in many different ways.

Some people pass the test, and their love grows stronger, because some LDR’s do work. But what I am trying to establish here is, does an LDR not work for some, because of the distance, or because you don’t love the person anymore. I think it's not the distance, but because you let yourself believe it’s the distance. If you indeed loved the person, you would make it work and not let the things around you overcrowd the beautiful things about your relationship. With that being said, I believe for a long-distance relationship to work, you should have experienced a lot, and grown with your significant other together for a while before being apart. What I mean to say is, if you have been together, romantically and physically for one year or more, the chances of your relationship surviving when you’re apart is more. But when you have not been physically together for a good amount of time, it will almost not work out, this is what happened to me. In my case I had barely been in the same town as my boyfriend for a month before I left, the love was not strong enough to last after I left, I was still getting comfortable with the fact that I had a boyfriend. In my case I believe that’s one of the reasons things didn’t work out. My answer is, it's not love, when your long distance relationship doesn’t work. Because love conquers all, love won’t let you think that because you're apart it won’t work, love will find a way all the time. But what do you think?