Aleper Ekaale Brian
Bio
if you crave stories that stir the heart, ignite the imagination, and leave you spellbound, then heed the call of my vocals. Lets' embark together on a journey through the realms of fiction, where every word is a melody waiting to be heard.
Stories (3/0)
LOVE UNRAVELED
In a quiet corner of a bustling café, surrounded by the aroma of freshly made coffee and a peaceful murmur of voices, I caught up in the complexities of love. I was forced to look into the various aspects of love by the challenges. As I sipped my latte on this chilly autumn afternoon, I was unable to prevent myself from getting lost in the confusing web of my own emotions.
By Aleper Ekaale Brian2 months ago in Humans
how to become interesting
We begin with the odd finding that there is a significant difference in the amount of oneself we feel we need to express around certain people as opposed to others. We tend to judge people based on how entertaining they are, but we run the risk of missing a more serious and pertinent issue when we associate certain people with being boring while others do not. When someone asks, "So, what have you been up to lately?" we positively brim with a multitude of topics, but when someone asks us the same question, we feel blank, dull, and almost inert. Why is it that when we are around some people, our minds quickly fill with stories, while when we are around others, we feel the very opposite? In order to understand the phenomen, we have to credit our unconscious minds with a faculty we might not have known we possessed during our contacts with people—we are always picking up on little details—that the same query will struggle to recall that we have ever even lived. indicators of how much our conversation partner is comprehending and valuing what we're saying when we bring up a specific topic How much of our reality can this person follow, how much of it lights them up, how much of it shocks them, how much of it they can take in stride, how much of what is prominent and complicated about us can they safely receive, and how much of our world would we have to hide from This simultaneously helps to explain how someone becomes a companion around whom people feel they have a lot to say. They do this by opening many rooms in their own minds, or if you like by saying. The answers to these multiple data points lead us, usually without even realizing we've done so, to a broad and active conclusion about how much of me this person is likely to get. Rather simply, the more the answer is a lot lot, the more we will have to say, and the more the answer is not so much, the more a cautionary instinct will form inside us telling us to remain quiet. A person will feel interesting precisely to the extent that they have become a brave and relaxed Wanderer inside their own minds that they have become familiar with and one could almost say at ease with things that are sad dark agonizing and potentially shameful when they are at home with their own anxiety grief strangeness and silliness. Of course, this is far from simple; many rooms of our minds contain very frightening things; areas of properly daunting loss pain horror and Chaos, which we can be forgiven for never wanting to go anywhere near. We will be able to comfortably unpack around them what they have felt comfortable investigating in themselves if they have talked to themselves. This provides us instruction on how to become the finest possible person in order to become a more interesting person for others. As travelers within ourselves, we must unlock as many doors to our psyches as we can, as doing so will concurrently subtly communicate to others that they can safely confide in us with all of their smaller, more personal, less frequently expressed insights and sentiments. Once we have the guts to speak up for ourselves, others will have a lot to say to us. Let's start with an odd remark. there is a significant difference in how much we feel we need to express about ourselves to certain individuals and other people. We tend to judge people based on how entertaining they are, but we run the risk of missing a more serious and pertinent issue when we associate certain people with being boring while others do not. When someone asks, "So, what have you been up to lately?" we positively brim with a multitude of topics, but when someone asks the same question of someone else, we struggle to remember that. How interesting does a given person make us feel? Why does our mind quickly fill with stories when we are around some people while it feels blank dull and almost inert around others? Since we are constantly observing minute details in other people's relationships, we must attribute to our unconscious minds a talent we may not have known we have in order to explain the phenomen phenon. Indicators of how well our listener understands and values what we're saying: how much do their eyes brighten when we bring up a particular topic? How much can they follow? How much of our reality can this person accept? How much shocks them? How much can they take in stride? How much of what's noted and complex in us can they safely receive? How much of our reality would we need to hide from them in order to spare them and ourselves? answers to these numerous data points, we often come to a broad and active conclusion about how much of ourselves this person is likely to receive without even realizing we've done so. Put another way, the more the answer is a lot, the more we will have to say, and the more the answer is not so much, the more a cautionary instinct will form inside us telling us to remain silent. This also helps to explain how someone becomes a companion around whom others feel they have a lot to say. They accomplish this by opening numerous rooms in their own minds, or if you prefer, by saying a lot to themselves, of course. this is far from simple; many of the rooms in our minds contain extremely frightening things; those are areas of appropriately daunting loss pain, horror, and chaos, and we can forgive ourselves for never wanting to go anywhere near them. However, someone will feel interesting to the extent that they have become a brave and at ease Wanderer inside their own minds, one could almost say at ease with things that are sad, dark, agonizing, and potentially shameful when they're at home with their own anxiety grief strangeness and silliness; by a beautiful principle of reciprocity, they will be at home with ours as well; we can follow them there because they have spoken to themselves and eager to discuss with them what they have felt comfortable investigating within themselves, we will be able to securely unpack around them. This provides us with advice on how to become the greatest possible version of ourselves in order to become a more fascinating person for others. We need to open as many doors to our psyches as we can because, as travelers within ourselves, we will simultaneously send out a covert signal to others that we will be a safe recipient for all of their smaller, more private, less often mentioned observations and feelings. Once we have the courage to say a lot to ourselves, others will have much to say to us.
By Aleper Ekaale Brian2 months ago in Humans
